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I love The Piano. I love love the Piano. I can pretty much pause at any point in time in the movie and the scene is a guaranteed computer background. So scenic. And Michael Nyman's The Heart Asks Pleasure First and The Promise are pieces that prompted me to listen to more classical piano music.

Before I thought about and typed this comment, I had to review Thich Nhat Hanh's interview with Oprah (available on YouTube) that taught me to always remember my breathing in moments of anger. Plus, deep, active, compassionate listening. It involves only sharing your presence to the conversation. Just that. And the rest is listening and empathizing to the listener. Any comments must be reserved for another time or day.

Before that, I used to nod and listen and turn the conversation to myself. I reply with stories related to the topic at hand, of course. Still, it robs the speaker of their moment to let out frustration.

I also remember a Parks and Recreation episode when a pregnant Ann Perkins (Rashida Jones) kept venting on her husband Chris (Rob Lowe) about the stresses of pregnancy. Chris tried to solve everything which Anne didn't like. Finally, their friends intervened, telling Chris the moment Ann complained about anything pregnancy-concerned again, all he had to do was say two things: "That sucks" and no more!

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Jon Metzler's avatar

Loved this. During my first stint in Japan (1992-1993!) I carried around a small pocket notebook so I could jot down new vocab. I collected stacks of these....

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