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Steph's avatar

Beautiful, Z! I've never heard of this book but would love to read. I love what you said here about friends because I sometimes think about the same things and have thought about friendships recently...about the ones that endure and the ones that don't. And sometimes I think if I had just made a little bit more effort...

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ZM Spalter's avatar

I think we learn as we go along. And we carry the lessons learned into new, and existing, relationships. In instances where I feel like I misstepped, or wonder what if, I do take comfort in knowing that if faced with the situation again there are things (I'd hope) I would do differently. I try to make amends or to reach out. And sometimes it's still an end. But sometimes it's a new beginning. Trust me Steph, I'm still learning too ❤️

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Jonathan Dobinson's avatar

Such a beautiful and brave post, thank you! Please know you are welcome to pop down at any time, set the keyboard to '80s casiotone' and rock out, alone or together. XO

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you Jonathan! You had me at '80s Casiotone!!! :D

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Kana Chan's avatar

thank you for such a lovely read!

p.s. i'm sorry I wasn't able to reply to your comment- it seems to have magically disappeared and only lives in my mail. thank you for the thoughtfulness!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you Kana! I enjoy your writing very much and look forward to the next time you post!

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Veronica Fern's avatar

I think you're the special type of person who everyone wants as a friend, especially me! I am intrigued by the show and the book!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

thank you Veronica!

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G Spalter's avatar

Beautiful my friend!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you G! ❤️

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Damali Miller's avatar

Enjoyed reading this. The natural human ‘realness’ of this made me smile. ....and always love memories of watching Video Music Box!❤️and that whole period. (Loved revisiting and watching their opening clip! Sooo cool.) I agree. I think over time we begin to reflect more deeply on how we’re doing this thing called friendship. Our young childhood self and our adult self...through the years...making and keeping friends. Loved the perspective!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

❤️❤️❤️❤️ always❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Regina Salathe's avatar

Wonderful call to action! I was not familiar with this book so am happy that it is now on my radar.

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you Regina. It’s been a while since I’ve read it so I’m eager to revisit it, especially after reading the Walker review because every single author that she listed has written a book or two or ten that I love!

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Anne Beffel's avatar

Thank you! Inspiring, helpful, hopeful!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you Anne!

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Stephanie Penn, Light it up's avatar

Thanks, Z! Love this. Would love to find a copy of The Friends!

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ZM Spalter's avatar

Thank you Steph! I'll snag two copies! :-)

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